Can we talk?

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Men, consider yourselves on notice…sort of. Women want to understand you and they are gathering to learn how to do it.

Tonight, about 70 women – some single, some in relationships – congregated at the Doubletree Hotel across from the Lloyd Center for a free seminar titled, “Making Sense of Men.” The title intrigued me and hey, you can’t beat free.

Moving to Portland as a single woman and being aware the daunting statistics, I knew that my dating life would not flourish. Fortunately, I’m perfectly OK with it. That said, it doesn’t mean I’m not open for suggestions on communicating.

Going into the seminar, I was skeptical and set my expectations to “low.” I was expecting touchy-feely affirmations on how single women can find a man, group hugs and songs, and tying yarn around our fingers as a promise to put ourselves out there. In short, I was imagining a two-hour version of that “Dr. Phil” Match.com commercial where he keeps telling the woman, “It’s OK!”

Fortunately, it was nothing like that. The speaker, Regina, was engaging and funny while sharing stories of her dating past and doling out information from the two-day workshop the company was selling. I did learn some things about how women and men communicate differently and how to bridge that gap. It also made me think about how I act around guys, whether I’m interested in them for a relationship or on a platonic level.

Was it enough to make me spend money on the two-day workshop? Not quite, but it was fun to gather with other women, laugh and share our experiences.

4 Comments so far

  1. divebarwife (unregistered) on December 6th, 2007 @ 7:53 am

    You say you knew the ‘daunting statistics?’ Have the tides changed? When I moved here the male/female ratio was very skewed with more men than women – especially in the 25-35 age demographic that I was in at the time. And with a few exceptions all my single friends are guys, so I figured it must still be that way. Have all the boys moved away now?


  2. McAngryPants (unregistered) on December 6th, 2007 @ 8:02 am

    I think it’s the QUALITY of the spare men. Once you weed out the soul-patch’ed…the emo…the ones without jobs….the ones that live with their parents. Pickins be slim (as I understand from girl-folk friends). I, for one, was snapped up several years ago.


  3. Random Citizen (unregistered) on December 6th, 2007 @ 8:30 am

    McAngry Pants is correct. Once you get beyond the statistics and start weeding out those who are not compatible with you for whatever reason, you’re dealing with a very small pool. Also, to add to McAP’s list, guys with kids who have overzealous exes.

    Surprisingly, though, I do not have any cats. ;)


  4. IRK (unregistered) on December 6th, 2007 @ 2:27 pm

    There are single women aged 25-35 out there looking for relationships?! I moved here in July and have been completely taken off-guard. I’m a little slow to get to the physical aspect of relationships and have had a few experiences where women have lied to get into MY pants. YIKES! Where are the “normal” women who actually want to be monogamous in this crazy town? Nutty!



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